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Friday, November 28, 2008

1/2 boy 1/2 man

(this was emailed to me, and I thought I'd share. I took out the "pass it on or else" part and added some of my own comments at the very bottom. I spent Thanksgiving with my family, minus one Soldier that is a big chunk of my heart. We will likely not be spending next Thanksgiving with him either since he's in the process of deploying now and will be gone 15 months. Sometimes I am afraid to blog because it messes up my whole state of denial if I come here and share with you how I feel. I'm hoping I can dicuss it here in the next few days without turning into a big blob of Army Mom goo. In the meantime...read it, agree with it, don't agree with it...you can do either, it's what our country is all about...Freedom.)

1/2 Boy, 1/2 Man

The average age of the military man is 19 years. He is a short haired, tight-muscled kid who, under normal circumstances is considered by society as half man, half boy. Not yet dry behind the ears, not old enough to buy a beer, but old enough to die for his country. He never really cared much for work and he would rather wax his own car than wash his father's, but he has never collected unemployment either.



He's a recent High School graduate; he was probably an average student , pursued some form of sport activities, drives a ten year old jalopy, and has a steady girlfriend that either broke up with him when he left, or swears to be waiting when he returns from half a world away. He listens to rock and roll or hip-hop or rap or jazz or swing and a 155mm howitzer.

He is 10 or 15 pounds lighter now than when he was at home because he is working or fighting from before dawn to well after dusk. He has trouble spelling, thus letter writing is a pain for him, but he can field strip a rifle in 30 seconds and reassemble it in less time in the dark.

He can recite to you the nomenclature of a machine gun or grenade launcher and use either one effectively if he must.

He digs foxholes and latrines and can apply first aid like a professional.

He can march until he is told to stop, or stop until he is told to march.

He obeys orders instantly and without hesitation, but he is not without spirit or individual dignity. He is self-sufficient.

He has two sets of fatigues: he washes one and wears the other. He keeps his canteens full and his feet dry.

He sometimes forgets to brush his teeth, but never to clean his rifle. He can cook his own meals, mend his own clothes, and fix his own hurts.

If you're thirsty, he'll share his water with you; if you are hungry, his food. He'll even split his ammunition with you in the midst of battle when you run low.

He has learned to use his hands like weapons and weapons like they were his hands.

He can save your life - or take it, because that is his job.

He will often do twice the work of a civilian, draw half the pay, and still find ironic humor in it all.

He has seen more suffering and death than he should have in his short lifetime.



He has wept in public and in private, for friends who have fallen in combat and is unashamed.

He feels every note of the National Anthem vibrate through his body while at rigid attention, while tempering the burning desire to 'square-away' those around him who haven't bothered to stand, remove their hat, or even stop talking.

In an odd twist, day in and day out, far from home, he defends their right to be disrespectful.

Just as did his Father, Grandfather, and Great-grandfather, he is paying the price for our freedom. Beardless or not, he is not a boy. He is the American Fighting Man that has kept this country free for over 200 years.





He has asked nothing in return, except our friendship and understanding. Remember him, always, for he has earned our respect and admiration with his blood.

And now we even have women over there in danger, doing their part in this tradition of going to War when our nation calls us to do so.

As you go to bed tonight, remember this shot. . .



A short lull, a little shade and a picture of loved ones in their helmets.

When you see a yellow ribbon, an American Flag, a Soldier driving past...take a moment to be thankful for the Soldiers serving right now and those who have served in the past. They are the reason our country is as great as it is, they are the ones who stood up in the face of danger, knowing full well that they might not come back home...all because they believed in America.

Since it's thanksgiving, I'd like to add that while we should all be thankful for every single member of our Armed Forces, from the Revolutionary War Soldiers to our Soldiers serving today...we should also try to imagine what our world would be like if we all stood up for what we believe in. Whether anyone else agrees or disagrees with our views on a subject, every one of us has the RIGHT to stand up for what we believe in. It's a gift our Soldiers have paid greatly for and it would be an insult for us to waste it.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

A Text Message Is No Place For The D-Word!

As you may or may not know, Mike graduated Thursday and is officially a Cavalry Scout. He received his orders a few days prior to graduation and was expecting to go back home and resume his life as usual, with the exception of going to drills and training once a month with his Unit.

He left Ft. Knox at noon on Thursday and got home in Pennsylvania sometime after 1am.

We left Ft. Knox shortly after Mike did (we went shopping in the PX! Too neat!!) Since we didn't have to be anywhere at any specific time, we decided we deserved to be tourists this once. We never got to do it when I was younger so we were doing it now!

We stopped to see the Grand Ole Opry in Nashville, TN. AWESOME!! We went shopping in the store and then went across the parking lot to shop in the Opry Mills mall. We ate at the Rainforest Cafe in there and really relaxed for the first time in a long time.

We got a hotel outside of Nashville and slept like a bunch of rocks (I think we actually forgot to turn off the lights in the hotel room - we were that tired!)

The next morning, we stopped at Lookout Mountain, Ruby Falls and Rock City. It was while we were in the gift shop at Ruby Falls, looking at keychains that I got the worst text message I have ever gotten.

It was from Mike.

It was pretty simple.

It said, "I'm f***ing deployed! They just pulled me. I go train now."

(notice only ONE instance of the F-word, this is pretty amazing considering he just got done with OSUT)

My heart stopped. Hell! The whole world stopped spinning! I'm pretty sure I actually heard it screech to a halt!

Now, my first reaction was to call him. He didn't answer. So I called again (not like me, but I was starting to panic at this point). This time he picked up and hung up immediately. Hmmmm....

I get a text message a few seconds later. "Can't talk. That's why I hung up"

HUH???

Can't talk because he's upset?

Can't talk because he's celebrating?

Can't talk because he's with a {insert any Army personnel higher than a Private here}?



Talk about creating a need for therapy!

We got in the car, drove to Starbucks (I had already been on a Starbucks hunt since the hotel and there was one at the top of the mountain next to Rock City) and tried to grab a hold of my wildly out of control emotions.


At this point, we had already planned on stopping at Stone Mountain in Georgia to show the girls. I had spent a few summers there as a teenager and wanted to show them how neat it was. So we got on the highway and headed for Atlanta.

While walking around Stone Mountain, he finally called me back. I wanted to hug him so bad at that point but just hearing his voice and knowing that he was calm helped me a lot.

He is staying at Fort Indiantown Gap until Monday when he goes home to get his affairs in order and spend some time with his family. His dad's family is up there so he will get to spend Thanksgiving with them there.

Then he is off to catch up with his Unit that deployed in September. They are still in Mississippi going through Stryker training. He ships out to Iraq sometime in the beginning of 2009.


I'm fairly certain that I am still in denial. But I had to start writing it down because I feel like my body is reacting without my brain going along for the ride. I'm sick to my stomach constantly but my brain hasn't actually grasped the situation.

I'm not looking forward to being near me when it sinks in.

It is not going to be pretty.

Why I haven't been blogging

Basically I've been busy busy busy.

The house situation is totally nuts, even for us. I can't really explain at this point but I will go into detail after the 1st of December. Let me just get my bearings on that subject and I'll tell you ALL about what is going on there.

The Army situation isn't quite so hard to figure out. We went up to Ft. Knox for Mike's graduation this week. He graduated Thursday and is officially a Cavalry Scout! HOOOOAH! We had the graduation dinner on Wednesday night and were joined by his dad, step-mom, other sister and brother. It was great to see him. He looked quite spiffy. LOL (don't tell him I said spiffy, I'll get THAT LOOK! LOL)

I have to write this all out but I'll share the events that occurred AFTER graduation in my next post.

:)

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Do You Know Any Caretakers Of Injured Veterans In The Issaquah, WA Area?

If you do, please read this and then pass it on to others to get the word out.



Hello,

I am a dentist in Issaquah, Wa. Each year my office closes down on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and it is a paid day for us to go do some volunteer work together in the community. Through the years, we’ve worked with organizations like Habitat for Humanities and Eastside Baby Corner. This year we wanted to have a different avenue of service and explored many other options.

Inspired by the Seattle Times Story around Veterans Day regarding our injured veteran, Rory Dunn’s life, we would like to do something for the Caretakers of these injured veterans. These are the unsung heroes who take care of these injured veterans. I can’t imagine what they go through and how their lives are changed. Being a dental office, we are thinking many of them might have ignored their dental health while caring for their loved ones. This is an avenue where we can help.

So, we are planning to provide free dental care to the Caretakers of service disabled veterans on Wednesday, November 26th. I am working with Jeff Honeycutt of the VA to get the word out to these individuals.

However, because of the short time frame to get the word out, we hope you can help us spread this news so these Caretakers who could use our services will be able to take advantage of it. My staff is so excited about this they have contacted various businesses who have enthusiastically donated items to put in goodie bags for the Caretakers. Tully’s have offered to provide coffee, Coshttp://www.blogger.com/img/blank.giftco has provided gift bags and Panera will provide pastries. We will have a massage therapist and manicurist to pamper these Caretakers as they wait for their appointments or after their appointments. It should be a fun day. I am attaching the flyer that has been passed out to the veterans’ family at the VA hospital.

Please feel free to pass this information on to any other person or group that can benefit from this service.

For more details, feel free to call me at 425 392-8992 or 425 830-6402 or email me at drcheng@theresacheng.com

Thanks,

Theresa Cheng DDS



Original Source is here: http://www.goarmyparents.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=12506

Thursday, November 13, 2008

It Seems He Thought That Call Sucked Too

I got a letter from him that arrived yesterday. He apologized more than a few times, and explained some of the chaos and aggravation he was enduring as he waited to make a call. He also said he was very VERY upset after hanging up.

That's probably the hardest part, hanging up and then realizing that you could maybe fix what just went wrong with just another few seconds on the phone...but you can't call back.

The Army is teaching us all sorts of new things about ourselves. Mostly I think it's teaching us to be in control of everything. Not just your physical actions. Your thoughts effect your performance and conversations could very well be the last one you ever have. Taking for granted that you'll always be able to apologize or try to repair whatever was broken is not a luxury the military affords us. I think Basic Training is for the family as well as the Soldier. We need to learn to say what our hearts mean first, and not to waste one precious moment we have on the phone or in person. Anger and frustration will just have to sit on hold until we have finished our call and hung up, or until we've dropped them off at their base. Then we can vent to our fellow Army parents/spouses/siblings and know that we are helping our Soldiers maintain the positive focus they need to succeed.

Ok, I'm starting to sound like a self help book. I just wanted to let you know he wrote me and apologized. Obviously our last call during OSUT will be memorable, but only because it taught us both something.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Tonight's Call Sucked

I feel so guilty now but I really almost wish Mike hadn't called me tonight.

I was at a dinner event with about 20 people and my daughters were calling me because they thought I should be done already so I was attempting to turn off the ringer and Mike's call came in just as I was hitting buttons and it hung up on him. OMG! I almost died. Then it rang again and was him so I jumped up and ran out and answered and he was so incredibly hostile! He was angry and complaining about losing minutes because I didn't answer and about how the Army sucks and he was stupid for joining and he wished someone would just shoot him and how morons keep making him lose phone time, and about how no one writes, and on and on. I know he's under pressure and it's hard on him, but I was so shaken up by missing his first call and then by being yelled at...I just lost it and started crying and then he sounded like he was upset about me being upset and....well, it was just a totally crappy call. After all the effort to support him and make sure I tried to keep him encouraged, this was most likely his last call during AIT and it was just everything it shouldn't have been.

And just to make the whole thing worse, I went back in to my dinner and someone asked me a question and when I tried to answer I just burst into tears.

If I hadn't been in a room with at least 4 veterans and another Army mom, I'd have been really embarrassed.

I have never wanted to get someone back on the phone to make it all right this bad in my life. I can't stop crying every time I think about it. I know he needed to vent, I just wish I had been prepared for it, or in a better place to be able to talk.

I so want a "Do Over" card right now...